Finding Freedom BY CHOOSING Happiness

Believing
that all your perceptions
are absolutely The Truth
is the very definition of insanity.

Freedom

is knowing

that

all your perceptions 

are only

your perceptions 

based on

your Point of View. 

Even when we already know this to be true, all too often, this level of freedom can remain just out of reach.

One of the biggest ways we consistently trip ourselves up is with our definition and attachment to what this freedom should look like.

To really experience true Freedom

(and Power), we need to let go of that myth and get real.

We can do this by breaking it down and repeatedly disengaging those attachments.

ALL OF THEM.

The first one being that this HAS to be a one and done. GET REAL!  We are so attached to our "this means thats!"

So...

What If we decide that the more we REPEAT, breaking down and disengaging, the more Freedom and Power we experience.

How would that feel?

The myth is that we can only experience this level of freedom and power when, and if, we give up our desire for everyone and everything to be a certain way.  And, we all know how challenging that can be!

What If...

We can keep all our desires
AND experience quantum level
Freedom and Power -
WHEN we stop making our happiness
CONTINGENT UPON the fulfillment of those desires.

What If...

We notice when we've decided,
"this is bad or wrong for me
THEREFORE I cannot be happy"
and we allow ourselves to decide differently.

What If we CHOOSE to be happy, FIRST.

We can do this when we notice and question our "this means thats."

We start asking,

"what if this doesn't mean that?!"

Becoming more consistently aware that -

"I am the only one that decides whether or not this means that"

"And I am the only one who can decide what my happiness is, or is not, contingent upon"

- is a huge game changer.

Celebrate and know...

"This conscious and consistent recognition is my Easy Street to QUANTUM level Freedom and Power."

Use This Mantra For Support:

Holding on is hard. Letting go is easy.

Holding on is hard. Letting go is easy.

Holding on is hard. Letting go is easy.

  Please know that  

  YOU are a portal  

  for the flow  

  of ALL GOOD,  

  that your Love is  

  what generates  

  and commands  

  the FLOW.    

 Your job is to OPEN WIDE  

 and to Follow your Love. 🪷 

If you are reading this, then know

that I am holding space for you to fully

identify the Truth of you AS ALL GOOD,

to embrace that you are a portal

through which ALL GOOD FLOWS,

and that your Love is your Power Link.

Namaste. 🙏  And Aloha! 🙌

Kat

IF YOU WOULD LOVE TO EXPERIENCE

MORE POWER AND MORE FREEDOM...

To Respect and Honor Your Desires,

To Trust Love Now In Your Life

Learn About

TIMSHEL : The Power Link  HERE

Awaken Your Desire For ALL GOOD: FOLLOW YOUR LOVE

Where Is Your Attention?

"I've been dwelling and rolling around in

'I can't have what I want'

for so long,

that I don't know what I want!"

I myself know this story all too well.🤤

If this sounds familiar to you,

know that you are definitely not alone

(there are such a great many of us out there).  And, it's not your fault.

The GOOD NEWS is this has been learned, so this can be unlearned.

And Oh, it feels SO GOOD! ☺️

THE UNLEARNING

STEP 1

Pay attention to your ATTENTION...

on your NOT WANTS.

STEP 2

MOVE IT to what you really DO WANT

by asking, WHAT WOULD I LOVE?

What would I love MOST?

Just go with it,

and FEEL everything that comes up WITHOUT judgment.

STEP 3

Practice NOTICING and FEELING

without judging.

I know this sounds overly simplistic.

That's because it really is quite simple.

Just do not mistake simplicity

for lightweight.

This practice is a definite heavyweight

in terms of impact.

It changes everything.

The best part is that you can

experiment and prove it for yourself!

NEED TO KNOW

Letting go is easy. Holding on is hard.

Some stuff may come up.🤤

ALLOW IT. Be a compassionate witness.

Allowing WHATEVER comes up

to be seen and heard.

Just FEEL THE FEELING.

That's all. Be brave.

When you fully feel it,

it will pass through you.

As one of my teachers used to say,

"The first step is the last step."

Don't make up a story about it. Just feel it.

Practice FEELING WITHOUT JUDGMENT

Wherever you can...

You may NOT be able to feel your pain or fear without judging it as bad for you,

and you may NOT be able to not judge yourself for judging it as bad.

You MAY be able to NOT judge yourself for

judging yourself for judging yourself

for judging it as bad for you.

Back up as far as you need, to let go

of the judgment wherever you can.

BUILD THE MUSCLE. 

KEEP ASKING... What Would I Love?

What would I love MOST?

FEEL what it would feel like to HAVE it.

And roll around in that!

Keep your attention on what you would LOVE.  Let IT become your guide.

Start giving yourself permission to have it.

You got this.

It's time to let your deep driving desire

for ALL GOOD out of the bag.

FOLLOW YOUR LOVE

"You are what your deep,

driving desire is.

As your desire is,

so is your will.

As your will is,

so is your deed.

As your deed is,

so is your destiny."

Brihadaranyaka Upanishad IV.4:5

Follow your love.

Your deepest desires are not twisted.

They are for ALL GOOD.

If what you come up with is

twisted or for harm,

you haven't gone deep enough.

You are settling for what you believe

you can have.

So be brave.

GO DEEPER.

Stop settling for what you want

IN PLACE of what you want most.

Ask, what would I love MOST?

Tell the truth.

THIS IS THE TIME

AND I AM THE ONE.

This is the time and

I am The One I've been waiting for.

And I now grant myself permission

to HAVE all that I deeply desire.

ONE DECISION.

Trust Love Now.

This is my Power Link

IF YOU WOULD LOVE TO EXPERIENCE

MORE POWER AND MORE FREEDOM

To Trust Love Now In Your Life...

Learn About
TIMSHEL : The Power Link  HERE  

 

If you are reading this, then know that

I am holding space for you to fully

identify the Truth of you AS ALL GOOD,

to embrace that you are a portal

through which ALL GOOD FLOWS,

and that your Love is your Power Link.

Namaste.

Kat

copyright 2024 by Kat Dowling

One Decision

Can You Imagine ...

Only Ever Having ONE DECISION?

...Ever!   Just one.

That that one decision is the same decision, that you have the choice to make over and over again.

And that, no matter what, you have no other decisions.

NONE.  Just this one.

That that one decision rules over all the rest.

That it literally runs the show.

And all the other zillions of decisions

are not even choices, just extensions of what

you decided for that ONE decision.

That that one decision, that DICTATES all the rest,

is being decided, maybe for the most part even,

ON AUTO PILOT over and over and over again.

Wouldn't you want to take over

that AUTO PILOT

and be AWARE of making that decision?

Even if you knew that that one decision

is you constantly choosing between

your love and your fear, and that

in fact only your love is real, that the

fear is based on an illusion of separation,

could you STOP yourself from trusting

that fear and withholding your love?

Could you choose to trust love now?

Let's talk about that sometimes more (or less) aware,

sometimes totally auto-pilot knee jerk

NEED to withhold love...

You know, because withholding love is how we

keep ourselves safe, strong, and even in control.

Right???

Only, what if we have it backwards?

What if... it DOESN'T keep us so safe, strong, or in control?

   What if your love   

   is your FLOW of who you are.   

   Your life force.  Your power link.  

   And your way out.   

What if it's RELEASING that need

to WITHHOLD LOVE

that keeps you safe, strong, and standing in your power no matter what?

Can you begin to imagine just how many ways THAT could change EVERYTHING?!

    Just One Decision. Trust Love Now.   

When you trust love now,

you STAND IN your power.

You ENERGIZE.

You HEAL.

You TRANSFORM!

When you withhold love you not only

stand in no-love, you stand in no-power.

Identifying and releasing that need

to withhold love [AND HAPPINESS!]

you find THE WAY OUT...

... of your sticking points, your story,

your unhappiness, your pain, your fear,

your separation.

   So How Can You Release   
   That Need to Withhold Love?  

Join me for THE WAY OUT PODCAST

in finding the way out as we trust love now

and we energize, we heal, and we transform

with JUST ONE DECISION.

Listen to THE WAY OUT PODCAST: Click here!

Namaste, Kat

Copyright 2023 by Kat Dowling

More On the Safety of Defenselessness and Insanity of Attack

In follow-up to my previous post...

"Love is where my safety lies."

One of my favorite teachings from

"A Course In Miracles" has been that

without a defense there can be no attack.

Since I have struggled with feeling attacked a lot of my life within my family of origin, learning to apply it has been extremely useful.  This has involved giving myself permission to really realize another great teaching... that attack can only be experienced from within.

When I identify myself with my constant mind chatter - that is constantly measuring and judging - I feel the need to attack myself for being less than, or wrong, in order to feel safe.  Condemning myself, I make myself guilty, and, therefore in need of defense.  I, then, need to experience feeling attacked in order to satisfy my need to defend myself.  It can become a very vicious and painful cycle!

Most of us learn early on that cause equals effect.  Change the cause and you change the effect.  Simple.  There's just one hitch.  What happens when you mix up the cause with the effects?

  Your well intended attempt to create 

 change just requires more  

  and more force in order to control 

 and move around effects 

  that you have mistaken for cause.  

The law of cause and effect doesn't care whether we have mistaken effects for the cause.  Until we correctly identify the cause and change it, we can only remain in this loop, feeling increasingly victimized and powerless - in need of defense, and the need to attack and to be attacked.

The only way to break the cycle is

to recognize the cause - correctly.

Not to perpetuate the blame game

and thereby the problem,

but to recover the solution

which only lies in the cause.

Realizing that every single judgment I make and identify with, and every attack in which I participate, is a form of attack against myself - even when it appears to be about others - has changed my life in every way.

  Recognizing that every judgment 

 and every attack stems from 

 my need to withhold love in some way  

  in order to protect myself and feel safe,  

 that it doesn't 

 and is therefore totally insane,  

  continues to be incredibly liberating.  

Identifying and releasing my need to withhold love at whatever level I am able allows me to access my true power link and let go of all need to attack.  And increasingly the need to defend, for me to be right and for you to be wrong. The more I release the need to withhold love in order to feel safe, I teach myself and experience where my safety lies.

A mantra that helps me to release

my need to withhold love,

especially when I really need you

to be wrong so that I can be right is:

Your judgments are not my problem.

They are your problem.

My judgments are my problem.

  In fact, the more I release  

  my need to withhold love 

 (judgments)  

  the more I allow you 

 to feel safe to release yours.  

   And that's when miracles 

 really start to happen!   

So, can you decide to trust love now?  Or not?
Will you?  What are your deal breakers?
And, what allows you to release your need to withhold love
and decide to trust love now?  Please add your comments!
We can all learn from your challenges, road blocks, and AhHAHS (big and small).

Personally I have learned and grown so much from all those who have so openly and honestly shared their journeys with me no matter how messy or out of control. And so, I thank you in advance for your willingness and your courage for I know from what depths they come.  They are my light-bearers.


Namaste,  Kat


p.s.
For more insight on the ACIM teaching "In my defenselessness my safety lies" (Workbook Lesson 153), check out Workbook Lesson 135 and Lesson 170 from "A Course In Miracles", Foundation For Inner Peace.





Copyright 2014 by Kat Dowling

Love is where your safety lies.

 What if we only have 

 one decision to make?  

  And what if there are only two choices?  

 And what if, one of those choices 

 is the way we give our power away, 

  and the other is the only way 

 to NOT give our power away 

 and the ONLY way we can 

 ever take our power back? 

  Which would you want to choose?  

Like a lot of us, I grew up with the auto-pilot program that told me I could protect myself better, control myself and others, and somehow feel more powerful and thereby safe, by withholding love.  Oh, and that it just wasn't safe without all my this means thats.  (You know what I'm talking about... this means I am loved, that means I must not be loved, this means I am good enough, that means I must not be good enough...)  Because without all my this means thats, how could I possibly decide that this is good for me and that is bad for me?  I mean, REALLY?!  Fastforward to age 26.

  "In my defenselessness my safety lies."  
"A Course In Miracles"

Foundation for Inner Peace

Workbook, Lesson 153, page 284

I began learning this very foreign lesson, and that love is where my safety lies. This teaching from "A Course In Miracles" (Foundation for Inner Peace) shook me by my roots.  Literally!

IT WASN'T WITHHOLDING LOVE

IS WHERE MY SAFETY LIES.

I discovered that love

is where my safety lies.

IT CHANGED EVERYTHING.

Part of the absolute beauty and power of the teaching is that it is instantly applicable to everything and everyone and can be proven when practiced.  I have been learning to apply this and prove it to myself for 28 years.  Fueled by feeling so functionally challenged a lot of my life, learning 'how to do' anything and everything has always been a driving force for me and learning this has been no exception.  I began to teach what I wanted to learn, and have been blessed with witnessing this 'power link' prove itself for everyone that has ever decided to trust love now.

This has allowed me to uncover that

identifying and releasing the need

to withhold love at any given moment

is the power link.

And that, there really is

only one decision... EVER.

Will I trust love now?  Or not?

How can I?

And what exactly does that look like?

My intention for this blog is that we will explore these questions together, uncovering our obstacles and resistance so that we can become free to make the decision to trust love now.

Thank you, in advance, for your willingness and your courage.  I know they will be your light-bearers on this journey, and I marvel at them - for I know from what depths they come.

Namaste,   Kat



Copyright 2014 by Kat Dowling